Spanking is bad for all kids
Time-outs work just as well, without the loss of trust and other drawbacks.
New research suggests that spanking is not only ineffectual but that it's harmful to most kids, across the board.Dr. Elizabeth Gershoff at the University of Texas at Austin published an article recently titled "Spanking and Child Development: We Know Enough Now to Stop Hitting Our Children." The research, discussed in depth by Psychology Today contributor Darcia Narvaez, looks at how spanking affects the behavior of children who've been spanked.
The children studied include those who misbehaved in the short term, those who misbehaved over the long term and those who exhibited aggression. Researchers found that children who misbehaved and were spanked did change their behavior in the short term, but that time-outs worked just as well in 30 different scenarios in which a mother asked a child to perform a task or exhibit a behavior. So if time-outs work just as well in the short term, why not use them?
Researchers also found that over the long term, spanking did less and less to turn around disobedience. Partly it's because spanking, though harsh, is inconsistent, and a parent cannot "catch" every single incident of the misbehavior. Narvaez points out that every time a child touches a hot stove burner, for instance, the burner is hot, so in a consistent instance like that, a "punishing" action results in a change in behavior. But more than that, spanking does nothing to show how to substitute undesirable behavior with desirable behavior, and even very young children pick up on that.
"Children learn positive behaviors from practicing actions that work, ones that lead to a sense of belonging and competence," Narvaez says. "They internalize what they practice and what their family practices. They learn reasons for their actions from what they hear and are told, but active practice has the deepest impact."
Lastly, Gershoff's research shows that spanking a child who is being aggressive not only does not reduce the likelihood of the child's becoming less aggressive with time, it results in the child's becoming more aggressive. "Spanking predicted increases in children’s aggression over and above initial levels [of aggressive behavior]," her study says, and "in none of these studies did spanking predict reductions in children’s aggression over time."
Finally, spanking erodes trust. Children begin not to trust parents who spank.
Narvaez says, "[Children] build a self-protective shield around themselves in terms of relationships generally. Children increasingly mistrust the motives of others and become more threat-reactive. Spanking leads to aggressive expectations; children are ready to aggress first before they are aggressed against."
Parents who want to learn tips and methods to stop spanking and substitute more positive disciplinary actions may want to visit the resources section of StopSpanking.org. After all, it's never too late to become a more effective parent.
Spanking is in no way harmful to children when it is done right, HOWEVER if done to where it leaves anything more than a light red mark then it should be considered abusive.
In my elementary school the principal used a paddle and I don't remember much if any problems at that school and everyone seemed to be well behaved at least on school grounds if only because they did not want to be paddled by the principal.
The major problem with children today are the people who spew out the kind of nonsense that says spanking is bad.
Another thing. Why is it that something which has been done since most likely the beginning of civilization is now all the sudden deemed to be bad?
From personal experience I can attest to the fact that timeouts don't work as well as spankings. When my mom would give me timeouts to where I had to sit in my room doing nothing at all it didn't bother me one bit.
There are many different discipline methods and no one method works for every child. One has to find the right discipline method for their child.
When I have kids I don't need or want anyone telling me what discipline methods I can use with my kids.
I also disagree with the first video that is played.
I work with kids at church and it is very easy to tell the kids which get spanked as they are for the most part the better behaved kids.
Also there are many people in the world that got spanked as a kid who turned out just fine.
The only time any of what the first video spewed out may be true is if the spanking has crossed the line to where it is physical abuse.
I would have to read the study. I find statements suggesting that spanking is inconsistent because "a parent cannot "catch" every single incident of the misbehavior" pretty weak, as you will *never* catch every single incident of misbehavior, whether you incorporate spanking, time-outs, or a pat on the head. Meta-analysis has its flaws, some of the research used can have some pretty small groups that statistics are drawn from, one of them used extensively by Dr. Gershoff had 11 children in the study.
My own brief (and admittedly limited, although I have read almost 100 reports) "meta-analysis" has shown that research published by authors *without* children are predominantly in favor of not spanking, while publications from authors *with* children were almost evenly split, with a slight majority in favor of some form of *limited* corporal punishment, especially when issues of immediate safety were concerned. I do not know if Dr. Gershoff has raised children.
My amateur conclusion from that is that authors with children balance academic study with reality.